Learn to not to hold on to preferences
Preferences are basically your own attachments either they are meant for good or bad. The other person always has certain karma based on which he does not want to understand you and he wants to go as he wants. May be few times, you can tell him, suggest him but learn to leave him as he wants to go. It could be your children, wife, husband, boss or any other person. Let them go as they want to go. Because everyone comes down with some karma (karma is basically their desire). Without bearing that karma, that desire will not go away from their soul system.
If you don’t want to let them go in their own directions, it means, then it is your attachment. So the situation comes to teach you to let of things you hold on to. The other person will only learn by going through his karma. So do not hold on to your preferences and advises. Advise can be just advise but the other person always has his way of interests of following your advise of not.
Husbands or wives having extra marital relationships or any other relationships they pursue, learn to keep watching those situations and such people. You just keep chanting the mantras given and practice the path. You can change others by your energies, not by your talks. If the other person is meant for you and he is trying to harm you to cause damage to you, he will be given opportunities to change. Later, naturally such people will start going away from you. Some super natural operation happens by the divine as you are progressing spiritually, to protect you, such operations happen. So learn to watch situations rather than feeling too bad out of your attachments. Do not try to change situations. Learn to accept situations. You will get required energies in this path, as you keep practicing the mantras and the path.
One couple who are following this path, I would like to talk about their real story here. Husband had premarital affair with a classmate and today they are living happily. But the wife is always doubtful and has suspicion character and she also carries many preferences in life. First husband joined this path, after one year, wife joined but after three months of her joining, she lost of her job and for almost one and half years she did not have job. During this time, some part time works she had but she had lot of time to repair herself in all aspects of her personality. She has quit eating meat, going to some other spiritual ashrams and doing some other spiritual seva etc. In the meantime, husband also is having a whatsapp group of all old friends in which the premarital old relation is also one member. One day, husband’s laptop went for repair and later mobile was gone. Out of these situations, he understood that he is doing something wrong against the will of the divine or Guru. He quit the group by understanding his mistake, later in a month, wife also got a job opportunity. They also sold a long pending property they wanted to sell. So, all this story happened in a span of three years, ever since the husband took the path. In the entire journey, not much advises and directions were given to them. But they learnt on their own with the divine guidance from within (the guru). Today, no fights in family and they are happy and prosperous. This example is given to let you understand how the energy of the divine works in this path in the background to lead you to right directions in life. But three years out of faith and love they stayed in the path without thinking negative about the path and Guru.
If you see this story, Guru has removed their karma during for about 1.5 years and later their life is totally repaired. Her wrong beliefs and opinions of spirituality are gone, today she has more clarity in her decision making. Her weaknesses of fears and expectations are gone. A new transformed personality altogether today after one and half years she is.
So after taking up this path, any changes that you go through see them positively and go through them. They are all meant for you to kill your karma and to transform you and repair your life so that you will have more beautiful and flourishing life.
Other spiritual practices and all you do also will have to be left. All those are of various Gurus who descended down to earth to help humanity. You are connected to this path, because of their blessings and they want you to go back to the source of creation. So in this path, The Source of the creation itself becomes the Guru for you and as you practice the path, you will start merging in him. If not this life, in next two to three lives, you will totally merge back in the source of creation and thus you will be liberated.